Men’s Concerns Resolved
Specializing in men’s concerns, chances are good that I have helped other men with the same issues that you are experiencing.
“It is a joy to be hidden, but a disaster not to be found.” – D.W. Winnocot
We love to hide, to have our own private psychic and emotional lives, but most of us don’t wish to be forgotten by the world. Most of us wish, and desperately need, to be found. The need to be seen, to feel “gotten”, is one of the most powerful and necessary elements for healthy adult development and the cultivation of empathic awareness.
The old bottle-it-up and tuck-it-away approach to dealing with distress has shifted to a new talk-it-through strategy.
All of the men I have worked with have one thing in common – they faced an issue and they wanted a safe, understanding, and judgment-free environment where they could go to figure it out.
No matter what issue you are facing, I am here to help you through it.
The list of issues and concerns that men see me for is unending. But the types of men’s concerns that I most commonly see and help with include:
- Work-related stressors
- Life transitions & “Next Steps” clarity
- Self-confidence
- Work-life fulfillment
- Finance-related stressors
- History of trauma, abuse, or neglect
- Wealth growth transitions
- Decision-making
- Self-identity
- Anxiety and/or Depression
- Marital transition
- Marital problems
- Communication
- Infidelity (men and women)
- Marriage separation
- Divorce
- Parenting
- Trust
- Dating and partner issues
SOLUTIONS
Your success in therapy is based on 2 factors: how ready you are and how well we relate together. Your struggles and concerns can be useful in helping you solve the issue.
You have the power to choose to be responsible and to change your situation.
With over a decade of experience, I have successfully helped men find solutions to problems they encounter daily. My training and experience allow me to quickly uncover the underlying issues that keep you stuck and provide solutions that are tough to discover on your own.
My style has been called direct, compassionate, pragmatic, and thought-provoking.
I work from a depth and systemic model, and I encourage self-exploration to help move through transitions, both acute and long standing.
We integrate the richnesses of your experiences, which asks you to be ready to work for growth and not just symptom relief. You are a complex being with intricately intwined understandings to your experiences.
It takes time to respectfully and successfully work through your narratives and perspectives,
the results, of which, are life-changing.
Patients state that they deeply benefit from having someone to help them flush out their concerns and to reach their fullest potentials.
I work from a deeply humane and respectful place, holding true admiration for all of us who actually take that step towards self-exploration.
When we collaborate, you can be assured my highest discretion and confidentiality.
With your permission, I often check in with you in between sessions. If I read an article or watch a movie or documentary that I think you would enjoy or relate to you, I send it your way.
A Gentleman’s Q & A
What Will We Talk About In A Therapy Session?
The anatomy of a session is looser than you might expect. At first, we will get to know each other. I am not a therapist who sits back and nods while you talk the entire time. That approach to therapy is popular in today’s culture, but it is antiquated and prolongs the process.
I jump into your situation with you. I ask you to show me the world through your perspective, and then I challenge and encourage you to look at situations from many other perspectives and change your behavioral and emotional patterns. This truly alleviates any distress that you may be feeling, and helps you feel more grounded, confident, and assured of your next move. If you are seeking a therapeutic experience that is honest, direct, interactive, humorous, and compassionate, we will work well together. I respond quickly and intuitively to your interactions with the goal to prevent unhelpful “more-of-the-same” patterns.
Will Therapy Help With My Job Stress?
Yes! You probably spend as many hours at work as you do at home—if not more—and that time can have a huge impact on your well-being. “A job-related problem is actually a great reason to seek therapy. In fact, therapy can actually give you a leg up at the office. Researchers have found that 13 weeks of therapy significantly increased workers’ job satisfaction and self-esteem.
How Does Therapy Improve My Sex Life?
When do you most feel like gettin’ busy: When you’re happy and relaxed, or when you’re stressed and tense? Exactly.
Studies show that anxiety and depression can make men more susceptible to experience sex-related stressors in the bedroom. And if the problem stems from sexual anxiety, counseling can help you communicate and empathize with your partner—a strategy that can ultimately relieve some of the performance pressure. The secret to the greatest foreplay of all is connecting behavior, such as listening and emotional vulnerability. Don’t roll your eyes just yet, because once you recognize the power these behaviors have, you’ll be rolling those eyes towards the bedroom.
Will I Cry In Therapy?
I often say men are allowed 2 emotions in our great American culture: Anger and Sports. This isn’t fair, and is, frankly, damaging. Know that lots of men have shed some tears in sessions, and that is healthy. Your brain is actually working its chemical magic (releasing oxytocin), which induces relaxation and improves your mood. There is no judgment in our therapeutic relationship.