FOR MEN

“It is a joy to be hidden, but a disaster not to be found.” – D.W. Winnicott

We love to hide, to have our own private psychic and emotional lives, but most of us don’t wish to be forgotten by the world. Most of us wish, and desperately need, to be found. The need to be seen, to feel “gotten”, is one of the most powerful and necessary elements for healthy adult development and the cultivation of empathic awareness.

All of the men I have worked with have one thing in common – they faced an issue and they wanted a safe, understanding, and judgment-free environment where they could go to figure it out.
No matter what issue you are facing, I am here to help you through it.

 

What Will We Talk About In A Therapy Session?

 Sessions are conversational, explorative, and compassionate.  Although I have extensive and intensive training in theories, it is our therapeutic relationship that is most important for your journey.  The relationship is where we can create a new, unique, and healing experience that models a secure attachment. Below I explain a little more about “Relational Psychotherapy”.

The list of issues and concerns that men see me for is unending and unique to each individual, however the types of men’s concerns that I most commonly see and help with include:

  • Work-related stressors
  • Life transitions
  • Self-confidence
  • Work-life fulfillment
  • Finance-related stressors
  • History of trauma, abuse, or neglect
  • Self-identity
  • Sex and Sexuality
  • Anxiety and/or Depression
  • Marital transition
  • Marital problems
  • Communication
  • Infidelity (men and women)
  • Marriage separation
  • Divorce
  • Parenting
  • Trust
  • Dating and partner issues

WHAT TO EXPECT

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What is Relational Psychotherapy?

Relational psychoanalysis is a way of thinking about how people understand themselves and others based on their relationships. It focuses on how our experiences with others, especially early on with our parents or caregivers, shape how we feel about ourselves and relate to others as we grow up.

In this approach, therapists pay close attention to the relationship between the therapist and the patient. They believe that this relationship can show important patterns or ways of relating that might also be happening in other relationships outside of therapy.

The goal of relational psychoanalysis is to help people understand and change these patterns so they can have healthier and more fulfilling relationships with themselves and others. It’s all about looking at how we connect with each other and how that effects who we are.  Together, patient and therapist pay careful attention to the interactions of personal and interpersonal experience, of past and present, of body and mind, of fantasy and reality. It is expected that such an in-depth exploration can set in motion a process of personal transformation.

What kinds of problems can this type of therapy address?

People seek this approach for many reasons. Some want help with specific emotional problems, like depression, anxiety, or stress, or are seeking to come to terms with a painful or traumatic personal history. Others may feel stuck in distressing patterns that prevent them from feeling satisfied, from connecting with others, or from finding meaning in their lives. Many people simply desire a deeper self-understanding or greater creativity in their personal lives.

How are therapy sessions structured?

The therapeutic process depends on the establishment of a safe, confidential, and collaborative therapeutic relationship. The frequency of sessions typically ranges from one to five times a week, the minimum frequency being once weekly. Decisions about the duration of treatment, and frequency of sessions, are reached jointly between patient and therapist. Patient and therapist work together to understand the meaning of the patient’s emotional reactions, thoughts, memories, fantasies, dreams, images, and sensations in an effort to alleviate personal suffering and to expand the capacity for work, love, and creativity.

What kind of training does a therapist have to be a “Relational Psychotherapist”?

Relational Psychotherapists are licensed mental health professionals like psychologists, social workers, and psychiatrists who have had extensive and intensive postgraduate training.  Training consists of in-depth study and coursework, personal analysis, and experience providing psychoanalysis under the supervision of senior analysts.  I studied at the National Institute of Psychotherapies located in Manhattan, New York.